Fix StackOverflowException thrown on shutdown (Fixes #10404) (#10408)

paper previously migrated away from using executeIfPossible as this throws a
RejectedExecutionException when the server is shutting down, which is then picked
up by the Connection handler object and causes the player to be kicked without
the intended disconnection message that comes from commands such as /stop, /restart

This was fine, because previously changes made in spigot would just prevent these
packets from being executed anyways. Instead, we'll just use a marker exception
to try to detect this specific state.

patches/server/Detail-more-information-in-watchdog-dumps.patch

@@ -56,7 +56,7 @@ index 0000000000000000000000000000000000000000..00000000000000000000000000000000
 @@ -0,0 +0,0 @@ public class PacketUtils {
      public static <T extends PacketListener> void ensureRunningOnSameThread(Packet<T> packet, T listener, BlockableEventLoop<?> engine) throws RunningOnDifferentThreadException {
          if (!engine.isSameThread()) {
-             engine.execute(() -> { // Paper - Fix preemptive player kick on a server shutdown
+             engine.executeIfPossible(() -> {
 +                packetProcessing.push(listener); // Paper - detailed watchdog information
 +                try { // Paper - detailed watchdog information
                  if (listener instanceof ServerCommonPacketListenerImpl serverCommonPacketListener && serverCommonPacketListener.processedDisconnect) return; // CraftBukkit - Don't handle sync packets for kicked players